Upcoming baby shower…


Okay…I have posted in the past about how much I hate baby showers. Of course, they are a reality of life and I attended those I had to attend. All of them were painful in some way or another and I could not wait to get away! Now my own baby shower is coming up. My two sisters were happy to host it but I told them I want it not to be a painful experience so no games! In fact, I just want it to be a chance for everyone to get together and spend some time together.

So, we will be hosting it on a Sunday afternoon at my parent’s house for 3 hours. We will have appetizers and cute cupcakes and punch and tea. The theme is baby jungle animals. I find it dull when the mom to be opens presents for most of the event but it seems everyone LOVES that so we will spend the last hour doing that. My sisters also hired a fortune teller to keep it interesting. She will be doing mini-readings for the guests.

We are expecting about 40 friends and family members. It will be great to see all of them. I am getting pretty excited about the event and about the baby. All these rituals and actually seeing the baby stuff is sure making this feel real!


Month 8 sucks…


So I am in my 8th month of pregnancy…and it sucks. Of course it sucks more because I am still not able to walk normally and, though I do not need them ALL the time, I still do need to use crutches quite a bit on a daily basis. The good news is that I am definitely getting better for sure. Anyway, back to my rant! This month-the 8th-really does suck. I am soooo ready to be done and have this baby be born but I have a feeling it will take me the full 40 weeks plus a few! Luckily my due date is in dispute so I will probably not have to go past 39 (as it may really be 40-42!).

Funny intro to baby jokes…my husband may benefit from these!

What are the issues, you ask? Well, besides the back and leg issue that is still going on (though now the pain is gone and it is just an awkward gait I have that requires crutches to walk normally or the pain returns), I find it extremely hard to be comfortable at ALL times. Yes, I did not really gain weight during the pregnancy but a baby bump has definitely formed and is it EVER hard to go from sitting to standing and SUPER hard to roll over at night from one side to the other. I have become a person who regularly grunts. Everything is squished up inside me so I can only eat small portions (or I feel like I will explode) and breathing can be harder now that it is harder for the lungs to fill up quite so much. The baby also kicks and moves a lot still (which makes me think we still have a long way to go as they say movement decreases as they get full term and do not have so much room).

This month I also jumped out of my skin a few times as I felt like I was getting a shock from within. Turns out this is called “lightening crotch” and usually means the baby touches the nerves near the cervix which are very sensitive and can make you feel like something is jolting you from within. So strange and sometimes it can hurt. The good news is that it may mean the baby is getting into the right position. Other than that I find I need to take a daily nap and the bathroom is the most important room in the home. Ha ha ha. I am also so thirsty and drink heaps of water which then makes me uncomfortable.

Since I am not working (or walking around much so cannot get out often) I think I am left to dwell on the discomforts a bit more. Realistically, other than this leg issue, it would be “handleable” to do this again (though I have no intention to). Generally, I had an easy pregnancy overall and I should not be complaining so much. A friend of mine is 6 months and has been vomiting and ill since day one. I could not imagine going through that and still being a nice person.

My husband and I slowly getting baby ready, though, which helps keep me a bit positive as it is making the realization that we will have a cute little monkey with us soon-and people all say this will make it all worth it. It better! 🙂 We have the bed and bassinet all set for the baby (a gift from my sister) and yesterday my aunt took me to the store to pick out a car seat as she wanted to be the one who bought it for us. So, I ended up picking out one, and my husband, after giving our car a good cleaning, installed it. It is a bit of a giant but at least that is out of the way just in case there are any surprises and the baby comes early.

I also bought some baby wash, lotion, diapers, and wipes in a small quantity so we can get through the first few days-and because they say you need to make sure your baby is not allergic to said brand so you should start with small sample first. I chose the Dove baby brand-hope it works out-and Pampers for newborns. We have a dresser on the upper floor of the house we want to use for the baby’s many belongings to come so I need to empty it out and then my husband will bring it down the stairs. I would have bought more by now but cannot really carry much with my crutches so wait until someone comes with me and then make them do it! Haha.

Next weekend is the baby shower-which I am definitely looking forward to-but am expecting no one will buy me anything off the registry so will probably end up with a million little clothes. These can fill that dresser. Once the baby shower is done I will buy all the missing items I need online and then we will be baby ready…in terms of stuff. I have not started mentally or physically preparing myself for the birth part at all but sooo not ready to even think about all that yet!! Need to save something for month 9, I guess!

Clock watching…


In the last while I have been trying to keep as busy as possible. Now that I am off work it is hard to pass the time…especially since I am still dependent on my crutches so more or less stuck at home most of the time. The good news is that I am seeing improvement with my back and legs but the bad news is that it is super slow and I am 4 weeks in and probably need at least 2-3 more weeks before I can be normal (if normal is even an option before the baby).

Anyway, to make sure the time passes, I try to schedule one thing to do per day. Often it is the chiro or a doctor appointment but the rest of the time it has been some of the items on my things to look forward to list for this month. For example, I already did both meet ups with the cousins (lots of fun and great to catch up), I visited my old workplace (so glad I do not work there anymore!), and I resolved the legal issue I had going on through a day of meetings (thank goodness). But, now I worry about how bored I will be and how much more aware of how uncomfortable I am getting in this third trimester. I worry the time til baby will feel like forever and forever without any good distractions.

Doing nothing and being bored has always gotten me down after awhile. I am not totally there yet but think I am on my way. I could do some online shopping for the baby but figure I better wait until after the baby shower as I am hoping people will actually buy me things on the registry rather than just random things…but we will see. Besides, I think I need to save something for October! As time goes on and I feel my stomach getting bigger, I sure am hoping the doctor is wrong and I am actually due in October and not November. Since the reports are contradicting there is a chance! So that would mean instead of 30.5 weeks I would be almost 33 weeks right now. Next week I have another appointment with the OB GYN and he said they will keep monitoring me to get a better idea as to when the baby will really come. Crossing my fingers for an earlier time!

Anyway, pregnancy definitely equals a lot of waiting…something I am not good at. Hopefully some interesting things will come my way to keep me distracted. Good luck to all the pregnant ladies out there…I do not envy any of them 🙂

September 2017: Things to look forward to…


August went by in a flash and was coloured by the pain and mobility issues that took over my life. Now September is here and I am hoping for a fresh start-and am feeling much better as well. Here are the things I have to look forward to this month:

  • Visit to my old workplace! My old boss has been asking me to drop by for a few weeks. Am finally ready to go and catch up with everyone-will be nice to see them all.
  • Finding out if I will be paid by my insurance company for taking this medical leave-if yes, it will be a huge relief. If not, I need to figure out what the next step is.
  • My sisters and I are planning two separate catch ups with two separate groups of cousins we do not see often-should be fun. Always great to expand your female circle I say!
  • Babyshower! Am looking forward to this event which will be all about our little guy.
  • Back and leg pain improvement? I have seen a huge improvement since going to chiro regularly. Am hoping I will be able to walk again or even be pain free at some point this month…which means I can maybe even try to enjoy the time off I have?
  • Baby development and progress. Am hoping all continues to be well with the little one and we get closer and closer to the big day-will have regular doctor’s appointments from now on.
  • Getting a step or two closer to my husband’s dream of buying a residence in his home country.
  • Ongoing legal issue resolved. I have had an ongoing legal issue drag out for a few years and this is the month we finally have our time in court and get it resolved. Thank goodness I can put it behind me.

More changes and baby gender reveal…


Argh! My family doctor was the one who told me just recently that my due date would be in October. She also referred me to a specific OB GYN as she does not deliver babies herself. I went to see him yesterday and he let me know it is difficult to get a real due date based on the recent scans I did as they are most accurate at the start of pregnancy and less so now. However, he said, we will have to keep monitoring me to make sure all is well and get a good idea as to when the baby will come as we go! So, now I may need another ultrasound down the road and my due date is going to be somewhere between Oct 28 and Nov 15. I thought I was 31 weeks but now may be back at 29. So disappointing!

I also learned that the gender of the baby is most likely to be male (they said they cannot confirm 100% as we are late to do the scan…in India it was illegal). I am not going to lie…I was a bit disappointed as my husband and I really wanted a girl. Somehow I am not surprised, however, as I never seem to get exactly what I want. We are both happy the baby is healthy, though, and are sure a boy will be great too. I had planned a fun gender reveal cake with the family but my sister spilled the beans and ruined it all for me. I am very angry at her as she knew I was really looking forward to it. She was in town for the family wedding and has now left. I am so angry I have not talked to her since…nor have any desire to do so. I am sure it will pass but for now I am not ready to deal with her.

In other baby news, my baby shower guests have been invited and the big day will be the last Sunday in September. I started working on a baby registry but am overwhelmed by all the products out there. Which do I really need?! Luckily I still have time to put it together…and my back and leg issues are improving with chiropractic care (thank goodness!). For now I am just trying to stay healthy and keep busy. Waiting for a baby sure is a hard thing to do!

Start of the 8th month and nothing to do…


I am 78% of the way to 40 weeks!! Secretly hoping baby comes at least 1 week early and dodges being a Scorpio!! Ha ha 🙂

So I have just started my 8th month of pregnancy and had to take a medical leave due to my severe mobility issues caused by leg and back pain. I could barely walk for the last two weeks and had horrid shooting pains to my knee. I am slowly improving but unlikely to be 100% until after the baby is born. It is horrible but am feeling hopeful as I have noticed improvement last week. I am hoping this week will be even better. But, despite that, my work  has totally supported me in taking time off until after mat leave. So, here I am. Today is Monday and my first day officially off work. I cannot move much so cannot do much and wonder how I will pass the time for the next few months.

Since university I have always had a job (except a brief 3 month period which was painful) and I think I may go a little crazy. It is only August 28th. I have a baby shower to look forward to near the end of September but that is about it. Also, my husband has found a fancy new job since we returned to the country so he will be occupied. Everyone else I know is working, of course, so I think I may be a super bored lady very soon. Am dreading the long hours that will leave me to fixate and focus on the pregnancy and how many long long long weeks still lie ahead.

I guess I should be grateful for a supportive workplace, that I have an opportunity to rest with at least some pay, and should be quiet. Some people, I am sure, would be thrilled to get this chance. Anyway, will have much more time to post on this blog and do baby research which I have avoided all this time!

Due date change…


I am thrilled. This baby is coming out sooner than I expected. The last time I was given a due date it was November 15th. Now, after an ultrasound, I am moved back to October 28th which means I am 31 weeks in a few days. I could not be happier as I have had enough of being pregnant and I am impatient to see my little munchkin.

In the last while I have been busy at home on vacation and with a family wedding. Unfortunately, all the family wedding guests and activities left my leg pain feeling worse so I did not enjoy this special time very much. However, this week I have been taking it easy and have been going to chiro regularly and feel much improved. My workplace and doctor recommended I take a medical leave as I will not be able to do my job so…I am off work until this baby is born.

Of course, that is not so great financially but my work may be able to help with that. I am still waiting to hear the news on if that will be a go or not. My husband is also eager to get back to work since he was a house husband these last few months. Regardless, it is not a good time to be overseas away from home and my family when I am still dealing with these pain issues…especially if they take a downturn again. However, I worry about what I will do for the next two months. Being idle is not something I am good at. Lately I have also been feeling very uncomfortable…something more noticeable when you are not busy. Anyway, we will see…

In other news, now that I am staying home, my sisters are excited to put together a baby shower for me. They have set the date and began to send out invitations. I was asked to do my baby registry…talk about overwhelming! I do not know where to start to be honest. I will have to do some Googling and connecting with the recent mothers I know.

Again, I am just thrilled to have the due date move up. Am hoping there is even a possibility our bundle of joy can arrive a week or two earlier…but not too early, of course!